Learn from Experienced Spanking Husbands (2024)

When I was new and growing as a spanking husband, I found I gained much from interaction with other husbands who disciplined their wives. No amount of bad material that is out there prevents us from finding some good advice, and it didn’t prevent me. I hope many of our readers, especially the men, are willing to learn from the experiences, and the advice of other men. It helped me to grow as the head of my home. That’s one reason I put myself out there before, and despite the fact that I now instruct and mentor others, I enjoy hearing what other men do, and am willing to try something new from time to time. It can be a breath of fresh air, and sometimes lets us see things anew. I strongly recommend taking good counsel.

Here are a few of the lessons I’ve learned from other men, or ones that affected my application of discipline:

The willingness to be consistent is one of the most basic lessons, and anyone who instructs in wife spanking ought to stress its importance. Consistency makes sure a wife knows what the rules are, and helps instill the lessons in the long run. She knows she will be punished for wrong. Spanking is not merely when you feel like it. It’s not when she did only the absolutely worst thing. Punishment will happen when she breaks the rules, and that’s because they matter. Anything a spanking teaches about submission, good attitude, or good behavior is made effective through making sure discipline is regular. If she knows she will not get spanked, believe me, things will become slack. She will feel free to do as she feels. She’ll be confused about the rules, even if she has good intentions. Do no be a lazy disciplinarian. In my own home, I am frequently tempted to forget about punishment. It can seem like a hassle if you are pressed for time, or just enjoying yourselves too much. Learning consistency has made me take my role more seriously, and treat it like a job.

I have also learned more about the importance of the post-spanking period of restoration. This is especially in the need to reconnect physically with your wife, and with tenderness. It is very important a humbled wife know your love, and know that she is fully restored in your eyes. She should be comforted. Where I formerly might have breezed through this period, I make sure there is plenty of reconnect and affection after the spanking.

One spanking husband led me to try out full nudity during punishment. Previously I typically had her bared only from the waist down for her session. It seemed right to have her fully nude for more serious punishments. it instills a greater sense of vulnerability, and of her belonging to me. These days I do both, but keep full undress for certain kinds of offenses, such as matters of disrespect or severe infractions. She knows she has it coming if she needs to be fully nude. There is nothing separating her from me.

Various spanking husbands have also led me to try out new instruments. The first, which nearly anyone new to discipline will learn about, is the silent loopy. It comes recommended primarily for silence, but carries much more of a sting than you’d expect. It’s a least favorite among wives. I was also led to start using the paddle, because it is recommended as a good instrument for severe offenses. That is what I keep it for. It carries a shock and awe effect as well. I’d say I use it less than once a year, but the paddle delivers what its reputation promises.

I have also benefited greatly from instructions not to give in to a wife’s excuses before a spanking. Many husbands, including myself, find it tempting to be compassionate when compassion is not deserved, or to shy away from spanking a wife who is clearly distraught over her fate. But in line with our understanding of consistency, we also have to know that very rarely are there good excuses for her misbehavior. They are just that. Excuses. She knew it was wrong, you had told her before, and now she wants to turn attention away from that to avoid being spanked. She wants to make it look less than it is. That can’t happen.

Similarly, it was other men who helped me learn that her tears are not a sign you are doing anything wrong. Usually they are a sign she is bothered by her guilt, she’s feeling ashamed, and she doesn’t want to be humbled by a spanking. She’s not looking forward to what’s coming. All of that is natural, but she needs to face what is coming, because she earned it by her actions. It will also make things better, and cleanse her. It will return her to submission and easy any friction between you. I always make sure to be steady, and have my eyes on my goal. I am a man who takes no excuses, and my wife has learned that.

As you again your own experience as a husband leading in discipline, you will develop plenty of your unique ways of doing things. You will arrange your discipline sessions according to what works for you, and what you see is effective for your wife. You will try out new things You’ll change over time. I still do occasionally. Your own learning will also help you filter out the bad, and take in the good, as you learn from the spanking husbands, and other people online. Those who have made it work for years can comment with depth into nearly any matter in leading your wife. Use that resource for its value, and in time you will be able to help guide others as they grow.

NOTE: For those who have not seen it yet, my new full website is up at

https://www.spankingyourwife.com/

I am still working on fixing a few of the problems on it, with the help of a generous reader, but the articles and comments are all there.